"Steps to Become a Successful Parent: A Guide to Effective Child Rearing"

Dr. Ihab Eid, Professor of Public Health and Behavioral Medicine at Ain Shams University, presents the qualities of successful parents as educators of their children. He says:

There are ideals and skills for comprehensive quality to be an exemplary educator, and the educator is the father and mother, so these qualities apply to both of them, so that they can perform highly in the arts of proper upbringing for their children. These qualities are endless and include:

The educator is the only one who thinks of unconditional love. He accepts his child in any form he is in and acknowledges his

weaknesses before his strengths. It is impossible for him to stake his

love for his children on a specific action from their side.

He deals gently with his children and their mother, teaching them honesty without excess or arrogance, meaning that they deal with people diplomatically and accept others greatly and generously.

He shapes his son as a scientific researcher of the first degree, so he returns to him when inquiring about something in religion, for example, to go together to the library to search in religious books for the correct answer to his question, or to go to the religious scholar for inquiry, or to search online. If this behavior is repeated day after day, this behavior will be nurtured within him.

He reassures you, for he is a well of security because he is kind-hearted, and he protects you from risks.

He does not rely on the continuous threat method so as not to stick in the child's memory the sight of the threatening father to him, as the threat is one of the four corners of the danger square in the relationship between parents and their children.

The successful educator is the sensitive father who enjoys a strong reception system, in addition to his high emotional intelligence, so he quickly realizes that his son or daughter is affected by a certain situation. He understands and realizes that without the child speaking to him. He does not force him to speak to him about anything, understands what is inside him from his eyes, feels what his children feel, and hurts for those of them who are hurt, and he can hint at what they want to say from the look in their eyes.

He does not show disappointment in his children's performance in any situation. He focuses more on the positive aspects than the negative ones, for he sees nothing but beauty in his child.

He does not argue with the mother in front of their children because arguing in front of them deprives them of self-confidence and makes them feel insecure. He also relies on taking his decisions in completely objective ways, considering the principles of consultation, taking opinions, and considering the other's point of view. He often resorts to voting and abides by the majority opinion even if it goes against his personal desire, thus teaching the children to respect each other's opinions.

He is always evolving and renewing in thought, so the child cannot classify him as an "old model". He must follow the saying of our Prophet (peace be upon him) "Raise your children differently from the way you were raised because they are created for a time different from yours."
He has ideas and skills in various games, and even in games he has never played before, he excels in handling them and plays them with his children.

He trains his son to deal with the problems of life, its harshness, and the risks he may face, teaches him to rely on himself, and tries to teach them the arts and skills of self-defense.

He allocates sufficient time for dialogue with his children, and his conversation with them is artistic and professional, listening to their stories and complaints.
He is firm in his positions in front of his children, as his word is like a sword, because it is not issued except after studying and reasonable expectations. It is not changed except in emergency situations. In case of a mistake, he admits it to his children without embarrassment, and in addition to this, he is faithful to his promise.

He answers all the questions directed to him with as much honesty and appropriateness as possible in terms of quantity and type. His goal is to honestly inform the child with useful information, but he is not direct in his answers to encourage his child to inquire and ask questions.

Dr. Ihab Eid points to the most important characteristic that must be in the educator, which is monitoring the games, behavior, and reactions of his children in various situations, as he does not consider play only an opportunity for fun, but for studying the personalities of his children."